PetPerennials.com understands that pets are family. Losing a beloved pet is heartbreaking. We will be sharing articles each month on grief and the impact it has on our daily life following a pet's passing. Our first article is from PsychologyToday.com by Adam Clark. We want you to understand that what you're feeling is indeed "real" and "normal" and we want you to take time (no matter how long it takes) to grieve. Our love of our own fur-babies and the grief we experienced following their loss was the inspiration behind Pet Perennials. We so understand. Just know when you are feeling overwhelmed and missing your beloved pet that you are not alone. Reach out to a friend, join a pet loss group on Facebook, call and talk to your doctor; just remember your grief is real so don't let anyone tell you it isn't. If you've found an article or have a site you think would help others please let us know by emailing Lori@cherishedones.net
PetPerennials.com feels it is important to continue to provide articles containing topics of interest to our fur families. Making certain all pets are provided safety, shelter, a loving home and will be remembered with love forever remains a priority to us. Over the coming months we will be looking to you for input on topics you'd like more information on. Let us know by emailing Lori@cherishedones.net - or posting ideas directly to our Pet Perennials Facebook page! We look forward to hearing from you!
My name is Remy Bibaud. I am the Co-founder and CEO of Pet Perennials. I will be launching a new blog series for Pet Perennials called “Pet Inspirations”. The series will introduce new or interesting business owners from around the globe that have been inspired by a pet to start a business or have dedicated their professional careers to helping our furry, feathered, or scaly companions. I figured I should kick off the series by telling Pet Perennials story.
People can say some very insensitive things without thinking or because they don’t understand. Have you ever heard, “You need to get over it,” “it’s just a dog.” Or “it’s just a cat?” Well, not true. Wrong.
Many people consider their dog, cat, horse, or other pet to be part of the family and grieve deeply when that pet dies. We get very attached to our pets. They are affectionate, good company, funny, even entertaining, empathetic, soothing to have around. We love them. So when they die, it’s awful.
My sister lost two sweet dogs in a single year, last year. So sad and that created a big void in daily life. Photo below of her darling dog Stella. The other dog who died was a little black and white dog, Tommy. Eventually she got another puppy, Vinny. Not to “replace” the others but just to bring a dog back in the home, and to rescue a darling from the animal shelter. So look at the shelters, there are so many nice ones needing a home.
Remember, we need to take care of our pets. Play with them, take them on walks, feed them, fresh water, give them affection. They follow us around and want attention. And so they help make the home a welcoming and pleasant place.
Even if you are home alone, you are never alone because your pets are there. And also pets are very good for children—fun and company, and teach kids responsibility. And family members who visit always enjoy giving a few pets.
So when your relative or friend loses a pet, be aware they are grieving, and may even have long term grief. That’s the kind of grief that doesn’t go away. It remains for years and years. Please don’t say those awful cliches, just say you are sorry and understand they are sad.
So, it is NOT “just a dog,” “just a cat.” He/she is a buddy who died and is gone. For many it’s like a family member who is gone, and they miss their buddy. Just being aware of this may help your friend or family member.
Susan Anderson-Khleif has a Ph.D in Family Sociology from Harvard, taught at Wellesley College, and is a retired Motorola Executive. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org. See her blog on grief and healing at longtermgrief.tumblr.com
The College of Veterinary Medicine at Washington State University offers a free phone-based pet loss hotline for pet loss support, death of a pet, dying pet. Staffed by veterinary students, trained by a licensed therapist, as well as a pet memorial site where pet owners can post stories and photos in memory of their pets.
Pet loss breaks hearts. Take time today to let someone struggling with the death of a beloved pet know you care, and that they aren't alone. Reach out and help heal a heart.